Lonely Mom? (there is hope)

Dallas, Texas, Everything else, Family, Lifestyle, Thoughts

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On September 21, 2011, I came to a new country, to a new city just after 2 months of losing my cousin whom I loved (and still do) so dearly, I flew 20 hours to Dallas heartbroken but excited to be reunited with my husband whom I didn’t see for 6 months. Of course, I was sad to leave my family and my friends behind, but I thought I’d be fine, I have a husband, who is my best friend, and I could talk with my family and friends over the phone, technology is so amazing after all… Well, I was so naive… We were doing good for 6 months, he was enough for me, being alone the whole day didn’t really bother me  (being an introvert definitely helped).. but then, everything started to get to me: being stuck in the apartment while Daniel was working, no car (in Texas it’s a problem), no job (my documents for green card were in the process), no friends, no family, no one really to talk to, and even though technology worked, time zones were still different…
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It was always hard for me to make friends, I prefer quality over quantity, and I’m so blessed to have friends in different countries, people who I’ve been friends with for 10+ years, people who I care about and who care about me, and even though being in different time zones changed the way we communicate, it hasn’t changed the status of our friendship. But how do you make friends when you’re in a new city, when you don’t really go anywhere, when English is your second language, and you’re always self-conscious about your accent and pronunciation, and because of it you talk even less, plus, everyone has their own circle of people they hang out with?

I was kind of miserable but didn’t want to seem needy, I felt like I got it, that I could do everything on my own, and that I didn’t really need friends. Rule #1 Never underestimate the power of having a real girlfriend (even if it’s just one) by your side.

I was staying busy, blogging, learning new skills, got a puppy… still no friends, though. Then I got pregnant. Christian was born in October 2013, and when he was about 5 months old I realized that I really wanted him to have friends who he could grow up with, have play dates, birthday parties. I knew then that I had to make the first step to change the situation.. if not for me then for him.. I knew that when he goes to school, of course, he would have friends, but I didn’t want to wait till then and I also wanted to know the parents of his friends, not just on a first name basis, but to really know them, be friends with them. So I started to search different groups for moms around the city. The first group I went to was a group for nursing moms, and I met Marycarmen there, we talked briefly, and it wasn’t like we connected and hit it off right away, but I thought she was nice and our sons are practically the same age, so I asked for her phone number to meet up some time after. We didn’t return to that group again, but we became long-lasting friends. I never thought that something like this was possible, that you could go to a class full of unknown to you people just once, and find a friend :-). I’ve joined other groups as well, met a lot of moms, with the majority of women that I met I couldn’t connect, maybe because of cultural differences, maybe because they already had their group of friends and not necessarily wanted or needed a new friend, it doesn’t matter why, it’s life I can’t be friends with everyone, right? BUT to my surprise, there were also a lot of moms that were in a similar situation like mine who just wanted a friend for their child and a friend for themselves… When I saw that, I realized that I needed to make the first step not only for me and my child but for them too. I don’t want anyone to feel lost or lonely. That was one of the reasons I became a Mombassador for Dallas Moms Blog group in my area… I want to connect people and connect with people, I want to see new moms make friends, make real friends who they can share their life events with. 

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I’m blessed to have a group of girlfriends that I can spend time with, do monthly moms outings (because we all know moms need that), have playdates with kids, and attend family events. 

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Rule # 2 Don’t be afraid to make the first step, or say “hi” or ask for a phone number to connect, maybe a mom on a playground running around after her little threenager is your friend for life, maybe not, but if she is, don’t lose her and all the moments you can create together.

xo JANE xo

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29 Things To Do Before I Turn 30

Everything else, Family, Lifestyle, Thoughts

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I haven’t done the post like this in a really long time, and since today is the beginning of my last year of being 20s I think it’s a good time to make the list again. This day next year I’m going to be 30 and I’m terrified of this number. I don’t even know why I’m freaking out like this.  I guess I always thought that once you turn 30, that’s it, you enter the #AdultLife, like you become a woman who can’t wear short shorts and bikini anymore, who might even cut her hair short, who must use face masks and eye cream all the time, who gets her first wrinkles, and who younger generation calls Mrs. ____ . And I don’t want this. Not because I want to be childish and don’t want to grow up, I just don’t want to get old I guess. People actually consider me mature for my age, but when I turn 30, maturity will be kind of expected. Let me know if you have similar feelings? At least then I won’t feel so lonely and silly.

Nevertheless, I want to spend this year purposefully so good that it won’t be so sad to turn 30. Here is my list of 29 things to do this year: Continue reading “29 Things To Do Before I Turn 30”

June Currently + Family Friday Linkup

Family, Lifestyle, Thoughts

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June flew by so fast… It was May yesterday, and it’s already July… June was a hard month, a lot was going on and we were just so busy…it seems like the whole month was just on fast forward except for a couple of moments that were in slow motion…  That’s how I feel about June…

It seems like the whole month was just on fast forward except for a couple of moments that were in slow motion…  That’s how I feel about June and that’s probably the best I can describe it…

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Reminded of what a great actor is Tom Hanks LOL 🙂 and L-I-F-E.. How important it is to live Your Life, to do what you want to do, to spend time with people you want to spend time with, to create moments with your loved ones, and not sweat a small stuff or even a big stuff..because at the end a lot of things that we so worry about won’t matter…the only things that will matter are the memories that we have and the moments we create, and I want them to be good…

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On June 21, my girlfriend’s mom who had cancer (read her story here) passed away… I was at the hospital that night, and it was so heartbreaking. I know that no one is going to live on this Earth forever, and the death is unavoidable, but it’s still very hard to deal with it.But, like my husband said: “She (Fanny) is not in the past she is in our future, and we’ll definitely meet in heaven”.

If any of you want to support her family and help with the funeral expenses, please donate here.

Watched The League of Their Own, Captain Phillips… Both are based on a true story…

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… and we started to watch Son Of God (but we haven’t finished it yet). But so far I feel like they gave a general idea of the bible but there are a lot of {important} details that weren’t shown in the movie…

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And yes, I can’t believe I haven’t watched Me before You just yet… 🙁 Have you watched it? I’m afraid to be disappointed, I loved the book so much…


Enjoying going to be at night… There are days when I enjoy waking up and looking forward to a new day, but this month I was just really enjoying going to bed, and get some kind of a quiet time without rushing anywhere, and even then I didn’t really enjoy my nights, because I had to wake up to put Christian on a potty or David was waking up because I broke him from taking a pacifier and he didn’t like that…

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And we are enjoying swimming in the pool almost every day 🙂 <3

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Listening  to a lot of Christian music (mainly Pandora’s Hillsong United radio station).

xo JANE xo

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March Currently

Dallas, Texas, Everything else, Family, Lifestyle, Thoughts

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Hi everyone, and welcome to my new series of monthly posts “Currently”. At the end of every month, I’m going to share with you what I’m up to, exciting news, obsessions etc.

So this month I have been:

Reminded of how important it is to live right here right now..at the moment, and not when the weather gets better, a house is bigger, next month, or when you have more money. I’ve been reminded of that happiness is a state of mind and doesn’t depend on the circumstances (you might think it does, but it doesn’t).

Reading articles and posts on Facebook and Google. Just news, tips on parenting, articles that catch my eyes.  I would be glad to read an actual book, but I don’t really have much time for it these days. The last book I read was “Me Before You” and it was several months ago. It’s a really great book, and I can’t wait to see the movie which is coming out in June.

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Watching. Usually, Daniel and I have date (movie) nights on Saturday and Sunday after we put kids to bed. And this month we watched all 3 parts of IpMan, Joy, War Room and Deadpool. Great movies! Deadpool is my least favorite from the list! It doesn’t have a deep meaning to it, but nevertheless, it was fun to watch, it’s definitely very different movie, and if you haven’t seen it you should..as you should watch all the movies that I mentioned above 🙂

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Enjoying double date night with our friends. We had a dinner at our favorite Thai restaurant, and then went to Karaoke place, came home at 2:30 am. No kids, just adults, and it felt GREAT!!! (and I don’t even feel guilty for saying this lol). We had a really great time singing Karaoke, and I would share the video with you, but it’s just too private LOL.. I posted a short 15 sec video on Instagram though. By the way, are you as excited as I am about a new Instagram update? 1 min video instead of 15 sec!!!  Continue reading “March Currently”

My New Year Resolutions (Part 2)

Everything else, Lifestyle, Thoughts

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This is the second part of my New Year Resolutions. (If you’re into clean eating, fitness, cooking etc. read the first part here :-)). My second resolution for the year of 2016 is getting back to blogging. This time I want to be more serious and thoughtful about it, not that I ever wasn’t..but it seems like I forgot why I was blogging in the first place.  I started this blog couple of years ago with the intention to share DIY projects, fashion inspirations, beauty reviews etc, but somewhere along the way I lost that passion and my blog became something more personal, I started to share more family photos and stuff, and even though I’m still planning on sharing family photos and experiences here on my blog and on our family YT channel, I want to get back to sharing recipes, fun projects, fashion inspirations etc. And I’m planning on posting on my blog twice a week. So definitely subscribe, I have many blog post ideas in my mind that I think you guys will like 🙂

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My New Year Resolutions

Everything else, Health/Body, Thoughts

Usually, I’m not the person who makes New Year resolutions every new year 🙂 When I want to change something in my life I try to change it right away…not starting from Monday or next month, or after New Year… But this year the changes and improvements that I want to make in my life happened at the end of the year, so I thought why not to write a “My New Year Resolution Goals”. I really had to think and prioritize the goals I want to achieve in 2016. It’s just because there are so many things that I want to do and I want to become, and often I think I have so little time and that I need to rush and every second of my free time I must do something. But I also know that when you do 100 things at once, you will never be good at any of them. I mean I know it in my head, but now I should follow my own advice to prioritize and focus. Sometimes it seems like I have a chaos in my head, I have too many ideas and desires, like: I want to be a better wife, a better mother, I want to travel, and I want to blog more, I want to study photography, and I want to study makeup, I want to read more, and I want to learn a foreign language, to scrapbook, to paint etc. …and it’s just a small percentage of what’s going on in my head. So I decided to make the list of my resolutions for 2016 to be able to focus on just a couple of things and not to be distracted by so many others. So here it is:  Continue reading “My New Year Resolutions”


Race to cure + Prayer Request

Everything else, Thoughts

Hi everyone! Today’s post is a little unusual and it’s a first this kind of post on my blog… But I would like to spread the word and ask for your help…

Couple of days ago my friend Karyn (we met in the spring when I became a member of MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group) told me and other moms that in honor of her friend Kristin Pearson, she accepted the challenge to raise funds to support the Komen Dallas Race for the Cure® in the fight against breast cancer.

Kristin is a mother of 3, was diagnosed with breast cancer while pregnant with baby #3. She had twelve weeks of bi-weekly chemo treatments and now is having weekly treatments which she is scheduled to be finished with in October.

One in eight women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in her lifetime and the more we raise, the more Susan G. Komen Dallas County can give back to fund vital breast cancer education, screening and treatment programs and support of the search for a cure.

Please, if you feel in your heart to help and raise funds and awareness for breast cancer research, donate here. Any amount will be helpful and will go such a long way!!!

You can read Kristin’s story here.

And, Please, keep Kristin and her family in your prayers! Share her story, and raise awareness for breast cancer research…

Thank you guys for reading this and for helping! <3

xo JANE xo

A little bit about integrity!!

Thoughts

I think Integrity is one of the most important qualities a person can have. Always do what’s right, even if you will suffer isn’t only integrity, it is also dignity and strong character. We all want good things in our lives. For some people it’s all that matters, for others it matters only when they got it the right way, not losing personal qualities. What do you think about Victory by any means??And where does integrity stand for you? I’m always curious what people think!! 🙂

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