Lonely Mom? (there is hope)

Dallas, Texas, Everything else, Family, Lifestyle, Thoughts

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On September 21, 2011, I came to a new country, to a new city just after 2 months of losing my cousin whom I loved (and still do) so dearly, I flew 20 hours to Dallas heartbroken but excited to be reunited with my husband whom I didn’t see for 6 months. Of course, I was sad to leave my family and my friends behind, but I thought I’d be fine, I have a husband, who is my best friend, and I could talk with my family and friends over the phone, technology is so amazing after all… Well, I was so naive… We were doing good for 6 months, he was enough for me, being alone the whole day didn’t really bother me  (being an introvert definitely helped).. but then, everything started to get to me: being stuck in the apartment while Daniel was working, no car (in Texas it’s a problem), no job (my documents for green card were in the process), no friends, no family, no one really to talk to, and even though technology worked, time zones were still different…
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It was always hard for me to make friends, I prefer quality over quantity, and I’m so blessed to have friends in different countries, people who I’ve been friends with for 10+ years, people who I care about and who care about me, and even though being in different time zones changed the way we communicate, it hasn’t changed the status of our friendship. But how do you make friends when you’re in a new city, when you don’t really go anywhere, when English is your second language, and you’re always self-conscious about your accent and pronunciation, and because of it you talk even less, plus, everyone has their own circle of people they hang out with?

I was kind of miserable but didn’t want to seem needy, I felt like I got it, that I could do everything on my own, and that I didn’t really need friends. Rule #1 Never underestimate the power of having a real girlfriend (even if it’s just one) by your side.

I was staying busy, blogging, learning new skills, got a puppy… still no friends, though. Then I got pregnant. Christian was born in October 2013, and when he was about 5 months old I realized that I really wanted him to have friends who he could grow up with, have play dates, birthday parties. I knew then that I had to make the first step to change the situation.. if not for me then for him.. I knew that when he goes to school, of course, he would have friends, but I didn’t want to wait till then and I also wanted to know the parents of his friends, not just on a first name basis, but to really know them, be friends with them. So I started to search different groups for moms around the city. The first group I went to was a group for nursing moms, and I met Marycarmen there, we talked briefly, and it wasn’t like we connected and hit it off right away, but I thought she was nice and our sons are practically the same age, so I asked for her phone number to meet up some time after. We didn’t return to that group again, but we became long-lasting friends. I never thought that something like this was possible, that you could go to a class full of unknown to you people just once, and find a friend :-). I’ve joined other groups as well, met a lot of moms, with the majority of women that I met I couldn’t connect, maybe because of cultural differences, maybe because they already had their group of friends and not necessarily wanted or needed a new friend, it doesn’t matter why, it’s life I can’t be friends with everyone, right? BUT to my surprise, there were also a lot of moms that were in a similar situation like mine who just wanted a friend for their child and a friend for themselves… When I saw that, I realized that I needed to make the first step not only for me and my child but for them too. I don’t want anyone to feel lost or lonely. That was one of the reasons I became a Mombassador for Dallas Moms Blog group in my area… I want to connect people and connect with people, I want to see new moms make friends, make real friends who they can share their life events with. 

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I’m blessed to have a group of girlfriends that I can spend time with, do monthly moms outings (because we all know moms need that), have playdates with kids, and attend family events. 

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Rule # 2 Don’t be afraid to make the first step, or say “hi” or ask for a phone number to connect, maybe a mom on a playground running around after her little threenager is your friend for life, maybe not, but if she is, don’t lose her and all the moments you can create together.

xo JANE xo

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Family Day In The Life

Dallas, Texas, Everything else, Family, Lifestyle, Photography

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This is how our typical family day looks like (if you ever wondered :-))  Here I’m posting the photos that I really like, but if you want to see the full DITL (day in the life) photo shoot click this link.

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Usually, we all wake up when one of the kids wake up (around 7 am), and then we have a little party in our bed: playing, reading books, hugging, kissing and laughing a lot.

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When Daniel has a day off he cooks breakfast. And no matter who makes breakfast Christian likes to watch and help.

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While Daniel is cooking breakfast, I’m nursing David. And Christian just runs back and forth to make sure that everyone is doing what they’re supposed to do LOL 🙂

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TIME TO EAT!! Continue reading “Family Day In The Life”

29 Things To Do Before I Turn 30

Everything else, Family, Lifestyle, Thoughts

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I haven’t done the post like this in a really long time, and since today is the beginning of my last year of being 20s I think it’s a good time to make the list again. This day next year I’m going to be 30 and I’m terrified of this number. I don’t even know why I’m freaking out like this.  I guess I always thought that once you turn 30, that’s it, you enter the #AdultLife, like you become a woman who can’t wear short shorts and bikini anymore, who might even cut her hair short, who must use face masks and eye cream all the time, who gets her first wrinkles, and who younger generation calls Mrs. ____ . And I don’t want this. Not because I want to be childish and don’t want to grow up, I just don’t want to get old I guess. People actually consider me mature for my age, but when I turn 30, maturity will be kind of expected. Let me know if you have similar feelings? At least then I won’t feel so lonely and silly.

Nevertheless, I want to spend this year purposefully so good that it won’t be so sad to turn 30. Here is my list of 29 things to do this year: Continue reading “29 Things To Do Before I Turn 30”

Little Swimmers

Dallas, Texas, Family, Lifestyle

I’ve probably said it hundred times and I will say it again 🙂 One of the best decisions we’ve made was to send Christian to swim school (Emler Swim School) early. He was 15 months old, it was January, we didn’t have the pool at that time, but we felt that it was so important to learn how to swim, because it’s the skill that he will always have no matter the profession, no matter where he lives and what he does. I remember him crying for several weeks every swim lesson, and then one day he stopped and he started to really enjoy the process. I look at him now and I’m so happy to see him happy and excited to jump in the water. There is no fear or uncertainty in his eyes, he really loves it and truly enjoys his pool time.

xo JANE xo

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Family Morning Routine

Dallas, Texas, Family, Lifestyle

I enjoyed filming and editing our daily routine. I don’t know if it’s good or bad but I do like the routine, I can plan things better and I can get a lot done if I know how my day goes. We have two morning routines: work day routine and weekend routine. In this video you can see our work day routine, where I get up with kids, make breakfast (3 separate breakfasts LOL :-), and take care of kids, while my husband gets ready for work. On weekends, I get to relax a little bit more since my husband is the one who takes care of the kids. Let me know if you want me to make a weekend morning routine video 🙂 I’ll be happy to!

What time do you wake up in the morning? And what is your morning routine?

xo JANE xo

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April + May Favorite Moments

Dallas, Texas, Family, Lifestyle

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I’m always excited about this kind of posts because I can look back on the entire month and really appreciate everything we have and the time spent with family and friends.

I started this series of posts in March, but I skipped April because I was just so busy (still unpacking ugh)… that’s why today I’m combining April and May together in one post since we’ve had a lot of good moments in April and I want to share them with you.

Reminded of that we are responsible not only for our kids but we are responsible TO them for our choices, actions, and behavior. We should always be an example of what we want to teach them.

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Reading a lot of health related articles. David was really sick past month for 2 weeks straight, he had a hand, foot & mouth disease, viral diarrhea (therefore really bad rash), allergies and ear infection. It was really tough on him. We were prescribed antibiotics and a lot of other medicines that I didn’t want to give him 🙁 so I started to read about natural approach to treating these kinds of medical conditions and I’m happy to report that it’s been successful 🙂

We’ve watched several movies this past couple of months, but first two movies that come to mind are Legend (based on true story) and The Nice Guys. Both are good!

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Enjoying being a mommy. I enjoy daily cute conversations with Christian, I enjoy seeing how both of my kids develop and grow, I enjoy cooking for them (before it was a struggle because Christian was so picky and David wasn’t eating solids yet).

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Wanting for David to sleep through the night… oh I want it so much LOL. I kinda used to get up at nights, and I pretty much forgot what it feels like to have uninterrupted nighttime sleep, but people say it’s good, so I want to experience it again LOL.

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Listening to Uptown Funk by Mark Ronson & Bruno Mars, it’s Christian’s new favorite song 🙂

Highlights of this couple of months ↓ . Watch my April + May Favorite Moments 🙂 ↓

P.S. Finally caught up with my vlogs, so now they will be up in real time and not 2 months behind 🙂

Has anything exciting happened in your life recently? Please, share 🙂

xo JANE xo

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My CustomInk Experience (Behind The Scenes)

Dallas, Texas, Everything else, Lifestyle, Reviews

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Several weeks ago I was invited to take a tour at CustomInk’s Production Facility in Flower Mound, TX, and I was seriously blown away by how they make and customize t-shirts. Behind every t-shirt and every CustomInk’s product, there is so much work involved, so many people who work behind the scenes creating a perfect t-shirt. I never really give a thought to how t-shirts are actually created, especially when it’s so easy to design and order them online, using CustomInk Design Lab with 75 000 + pieces of art to choose from (or you can create your own design). They use several methods to make their t-shirts: embroidery, digital printing, and screen printing. You have to watch the whole process for yourself, and you will also see how I screen printed my own t-shirt (it was a lot of fun and took a lot of muscle work lol) ↓:

You can order CustomInk products for ANY event in your life..big or small: wedding, reunion, graduation, vacation, for your business, sports team etc. Here are several samples:  Continue reading “My CustomInk Experience (Behind The Scenes)”

House Makeover | Before & After

Dallas, Texas, DIY/How to, Everything else, Family, Lifestyle

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I’m finally posting before and after photos of our house makeover!!

We’ve recently moved to our new house and still in the process of unpacking the boxes (can’t wait to be done with that). We bought the house in February and we fell in love with it at first glance. We love everything about it: the layout, the size of the rooms, the fact that it’s a one-story house, and it has everything we want our perfect house to have including the backyard and of course, the pool (it’s Texas for God’s sake :-)).

It’s our first family house and first time to do any kind of remodeling. We were very excited to begin the process and to choose the paint colors, tile, appliances etc. It was very fun (more fun at the beginning than at the end lol), but it was also very overwhelming at the same time…we even had to choose the color of the grout (yes, I didn’t even think there were so many options of grout colors :-)).

We made all of our choices and then I began to worry if it would look good when it was all set and done. I didn’t want to pay more just to change and redo something that I chose myself at the first place.

Even though we wanted our house to look beautiful we were also trying to make practical choices like we made an office room instead of having a formal dining room because we need an office space since I work from home, and we can always have big dinners in the kitchen area.

Here are several Before and After photos. And below you will also find a Before/After Video + the fun process of remodeling.

 

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This is the kitchen. The kitchen cabinets are real wood, so we decided to just paint them white instead of completely changing them since the quality is really good. We changed the floors, countertops, backsplash, sink and appliances.

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